Living in the same social circle requires individuals to interconnect with one another. Each of us has mutual benefits, and we could ask each other for help. The help is of many types; if you are a boss, you can directly order and impose certain things. Similarly, if someone is working under someone, we have to ask for help in a requesting manner, and similar is the case for our social connections or out-of-work matters. The request depends upon the influence your words have on the one being requested. This influence determines the extent of efficiency your request holds.
Human nature enjoys the fact that when they are being praised and considered dominant over others. When we are requesting, we are just feeding this urge of human. Request is the food of human trait that is Sympathy. Sympathy is usually considered a very generous act. We usually misunderstand Sympathy and Empathy. Sympathy and Empathy are the feelings of sorrow for anyone who is in trouble, but the main difference lies in how this feeling is nurtured. Sympathy is expressed by keeping oneself on the upper side, while Empathy is simply putting oneself in someone else’s shoes.
Request is the art of asking someone to be sympathetic. Although there is a difference in the interpretation of the request. Some people consider a request as a chance to show themselves dominant and try to be sympathetic, while some, being very kind and generous, respond empathetically. Both of the responses are somehow considered good acts, as most of us don’t know the in-depth difference between Sympathy and Empathy.
There is another term that is Apathy. Apathy is a behavior where the one who is being requested does not pay any attention to the request, and it does not matter to them what happens. This is considered the rudest or selfish response to any request. These are also common among rebels and people with some severe mental circumstances.
If we look into the reasons behind Sympathetic, Empathic, and Apathetic responses to different requests, we usually see that the past happenings, personal experiences, and circumstances are the major reasons for each response. Cognitive Pressure-previous thoughts start circulating in the mind when a person is being requested and as a result he respond accordingly.
There also exists a group of people who are not able to request due to their rigid behavior and attitude. The ability to request is crucial for cooling down the heat in many matters, but when we consider some rigid behaviors, we also come to know that being unable to request is also very common. This is often linked with the Ego. However, ego alone is not the case. Sometimes, even after trying, many people find it difficult to request, and we see many different clashes on very minor issues.
So, if you look into the request types and different attitudes associated, we can clearly say that “Request” is not only a way of asking any favor but it’s a communication skill-a skill that must be learn to survive in a social circle. Learning request is not only a task to consider, but responding to a request is more crucial. If we can learn to request but unable to respond, then what’s the benefit of requesting.
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